If you're going through a break up, you need to hear this.
A dear friend of mine reached out recently because she's dealing with the aftermath of a traumatic break up.
When speaking to her about her pain, what I express in the video is the original stream of consciousness that spilled out.
I was recording her a voice message so thankfully I had my words recorded.
I have used my words from that day and re-recorded the message to share it with you.
It is my sincere hope to connect with all those in the aftermath of a break up or dealing with heartache.
You're not alone.
"It took me so long to get over my first love.
I grieved and grieved for months.
So many nights I just cried and cried.
And…it’s hard…it’s like a death.
It’s equivalent to a death.
Please be kind and gentle with yourself as you heal.
Because it’s really hard.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
But it’s a very powerful thing you went through… you fell in love and that’s beautiful.
But right now you don’t have to see it as beautiful, and you certainly don’t have to be strong.
You’ve already been strong!
Now is your time to be weak and fragile and furious and jealous and confused.
Why do we have to always be strong?
Grief is an emotion and a process for a reason. And not feeling all of the feelings that we feel is a disservice to our future selves.
So feel it.
Let it devastate you, if you need it to.
Don’t run from it.
Step into that fire.
Let it consume you.
Because the only way out is through.
I love you so much.
And I believe in you.
What I will offer you is this… The most profound movement forward and the most profound growth in my life thus far happened after my break up.
And I’m confident it’ll be the same with you.
Some days will be better than others.
And you HAVE to be willing to forgive yourself.
Days that you don’t wanna get out of bed.
Days that you wanna say, “Fuck you,” to people in relationships.
Days that you find yourself obsessing over their social media.
You’re only human.
And I know you will."